Swingers Lifestyle
NASCA (North American Swing
Clubs Association) defines
Swinging as, "social and sexual
intercourse with someone other
than your mate, boyfriend or
girlfriend, excepting the
traditional one-on-one dating.
Swinging is not the same as
swapping, because lots of
swingers (men and women) are
still single, so no need to
swap. A good definition might
perhaps be "recreational sex".
In summary, swinging is for
(mostly) heterosexual people who
enjoy sex for its own sake, as
opposed to purely within one
relationship. Sex as a hobby.
Some people said that
swinging lifestyle started in
United Kingdom ( UK ) and later
starting to gain acceptance by
the rest of the world. Well, I
am not really sure how it get
started but it is not easy to
involved in swinging lifestyle.
A few important things: first,
no one should swing unless they
really want to. No one should
ever go into it if they are at
all uncertain of their own
wishes, or of the strength of
their emotional relationship
with their partner. Swinging can
(and often does) strengthen
couples' attachment to one
another. But equally, it can and
does wreck relationships too. If
you can't discuss it openly
between yourselves or if one
partner keeps bringing it up you
almost certainly shouldn't go
there.
Swingers lifestyle is based
upon communication more than any
other factor. Swinging couples
have an ability to talk openly
about there feelings with one
another and learning to do that
must precede any decision or
discussion of entering the
Lifestyle.
A good way to start the
process with a spouse is to talk
about sexual fantasies,
particularly those sexual
fantasies that involve other
people. Once you have
established that your fantasies
can be more of a source of
excitement than a threat, it is
much easier to begin talking in
terms of bringing those
fantasies into the real world.
No matter how you start the
communication, it is not
generally a good idea to simply
blurt out, "Hey, do you want to
swing?". Most people who have
been in a long term monogamous
marriage are going to be taken
aback by that approach, and
failure is almost assured. It is
best to establish the idea over
a period of time rather than try
to rush.
You can't "swing" without
your spouse's knowledge and
consent. That isn't swinging.
You would be having an affair.
Swinging requires two consenting
adults who are open to the idea
of participating in the
lifestyle together. Most
swinging couples are not going
to have anything to do with
someone who is sneaking around
on a spouse. Swingers as a group
are very proud of the fact that
they are open and honest about
their sexuality. Cheating is
considered to be the antithesis
of everything that the swinging
lifestyle is about and besides,
the swinging community is
already assailed by literally
millions of solo males looking
to get laid.
 Your best bet is to work on
the communication in your
marriage and try talking about
the swingers lifestyle some
more. Swingers as a group are
very proud of the fact that they
are open and honest about their
sexuality. Cheating is
considered to be the antithesis
of everything that the swingers
lifestyle is about.
Remember, that swinging
isn't for every couple. If you
can't agree on it, maybe it is
not for you.
It is generally not a good
idea to swing with friends,
unless you met them through
swinging: even then, many
swingers have a "one-hit" rule,
so emotional
complications/attractions can't
arise.
When you do meet someone you
think you might like, be frank
about what you like or don't
like, and demand the same from
the person or people you meet.
If you don't like them for any
reason, just politely turn them
down. If YOU get turned down,
don't be offended.. You will be
just what someone, somewhere, is
looking for. This is ALL about
people's right to do absolutely
what they like, and nothing they
don't like.
Lastly, swingers must be very
health conscious. Always
practice safe sex and make sure
yourself is disease free. Most
swingers say they always
practice it, but in reality,
most probably don't. So there is
always some kind of health risk,
however careful you are (condoms
are no protection against crabs,
for instance). It is for you to
make your own judgement. But
no-one will ever complain if you
choose to be super-careful. And
it is a fact that
sexually-transmitted diseases
are far more common among
teenagers than among swingers.
Welcome to Swingers Lifestyle
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Swinging Terms and Acronyms
You Should Know:
AC/DC - An individual who
is bi-sexual.
B & D - Bondage and
Discipline.
BDSM - Bondage,
discipline, sadomasochism
Back Door - Slang for
anal sex.
Bondage - Sexually
aroused by being restrained or
the subject of corrective
treatment. (B&D)
Discipline - Disciplinary
actions, which arouse sexual
desires, ranging from mild
spankings to painful beatings.
(B&D)
DP - Double Penetration
Exhibitionism - Sexual
need to show the private parts
of the body to others.
Fetish - Sexual arousal
through the use of objects or
devotion to parts of the body,
such as feet, fingers, leather,
etc.
French - Oral sex.
Greek - Anal intercourse
Hedonist - One who lives
only for pleasure.
Off Premise - These are
events in which sexual activity
is not allowed at the party. If
members wish to get together
then they leave and go to a
hotel room, home, or where ever.
On Premise - These events
are usually house parties or
private clubs. Sex is allowed in
designated areas, such as
bedrooms. There are usually safe
rooms where sex is not allowed.
Parties - Group swinging
with more than one couple. Not
to be confused with orgies.
Private rooms may be used, but
all are under one roof.
Roman - Orgies.
Unrestrained multiple sexual
activities in one room.
Safe - Male with
vasectomy or female with
hysterectomy or tubal ligation.
(Unable to become pregnant or to
impregnate.)
Social - An organized
get-acquainted area of neutral
ground, such as a restaurant, or
dance. Sometimes followed by a
party.
Soft Swing - Where two
couples will agree to watch each
other during sexual relations.
Swapping - The exchanging
of mates by two couples.
Swinger - One, as part of
a couple, who engages in
recreational sex.
Swinging - Where two or
more couples agree to get
together for the express purpose
of engaging in intimate, sexual
relations with a partner or
partners other than their own.
Voyeurism - Observing
others engaged in sexual
activities, in the act of
undressing, or sexual
exhibitions. The view of an
Exhibitionist.
Water Sports - urination
for sexual stimulation !
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Swingers Lifestyle
Classification:
Soft swinging
Watching another couple during
sexual relations. May also
include foreplay with other
partners, sometimes including
oral sex but no vaginal
penetration. Can add spice to a
couple's relationship & allow
them to have fun without the
risk of disease or jealousy.
Many couples start out as soft
swingers as they first explore
swinging. But don't think that
soft swingers will always
convert to full swapping.
Closed swinging
Partners swap, but have sex in
separate rooms. Closed swinging
allows for a more intimate
experience. Some people feel it
allows them more freedom to
explore & fewer interruptions of
their enjoyment.
Open swinging
Partners swap & have sex in the
same room, or bed. This includes
orgies & is great for
exhibitionists & voyeurs, who
can show off or just enjoy
watching their partner play.
Some people find open swinging
allows for total release of the
sexual desires & fantasies. In
order for open swinging to be
successful, none of the members
of the group can be jealous.
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Swingers Ethics:
- Never attempt to break up a
marriage.
- Always keep dates unless you
give ample notice of changing
circumstances.
- Always keep the first meeting
on a "no strings attached"
basis, but be prepared to swing
if it is mutually agreeable or
to give an honest answer if
something doesn't click.
- Never, under any circumstances
exert pressure on a partner to
swing.
- Restrict discussions of
swinging to known swingers and
interested persons seek-for
information.
- Protect the anonymity of other
swingers by refraining from
unauthorized "name dropping."
- Always maintain the highest
standards of personal
cleanliness and appearance.
- Do not engage in any unlawful
activity that would discredit
swingers as a group.
- Be friendly and warm with your
swing partners, but understand
that there is a type of
emotional involvement, which is
properly reserved for a spouse
or "primary significant other."
- Always show respect for the
personal attitudes, feelings and
"hang-ups" of other swingers.
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